A child actually grows and develops in a harmonious family environment. However, sometimes so many parents end their marriage and choose to build a family with new people. them then become as stepmother and stepfather. Of course, this will have an impact on the child's growth and development, whether the child will grow up comfortably or it will cause inner pressure on the child themself, depending on how the stepparent builds an inner bond with the child, which incidentally is not flesh and blood, it will be very difficult to build cohesiveness. However, so many children who grow up well in a stepfamily environment. For example, in the public life of figures Sony Septian and Fairuz A. Rafiq, where Sony was able to accept the presence of his stepdaughter King Faaz with warmth and full of love, so that Faaz grew up to be a proud child. Not only having a beautiful face, a sweet and polite demeanor cannot be separated from Sony's role in shaping the character of the child.
On the other hand, case after case of molestation of stepparents against stepchildren often adorn the news in both electronic and print media with various background motives. The presence of stepparents for a child is a fear in itself. Like in a fairy tale, the stepmother's image is very bad to the stepdaughter. Although not entirely someone who is a stepparent plays a bad character in real life. Not a few stepchildren actually feel very comfortable growing and developing in the arms of their stepparents.
Despite the fact that cases of molestation of stepparents against stepchildren continue to occur. What are really motives often behind it? Here's the review:
Considering the presence of a stepchild is a burden
Accepting someone who has failed in marriage and has children from a previous marriage is certainly a burden in itself. Loving your partner doesn't necessarily mean you can fully love the people around you. Parents with the stepparents status of who cannot fully reconcile with the situation and consider the children presence are not their biological children often creates its own pressure that often leads to abuse, even if it is only causes by small things.
Inappropriate Stepchild Behavior
Children are born with a variety of characters. The parents Separation or divorce surely can trigger behavioral changes for the child. It is possible that them will grow up to be a wild child as a form of disappointment to their parents' choices or conditions, and be used to be away in everyday life in a new family environment. Often the child shows disrespectful behavior that can trigger the madness of stepparent to.
Finance Issues
A squeezed finance can make it one of the motives for parents to behave badly towards their stepchildren. Disappointment due to the finance crush is sometimes vented to the child, even though in basicly the disappointment pointed the couple who are unable to fulfill all their needs. However, sometimes it is a form of fear to going against the partner so that the child becomes an easy target for venting disappointment.
Other People's Engagement
the household problems are certainly unavoidable. It is impossible for a family to run perfectly forever. Of course there will be things that can trigger conflicts in the household. When these problems arise, the involvement of other people can not only defuse conflicts but, sometimes make it worse. This even can made new problems for stepchildren, it is possible to become the target of parental anger even though the child does not understand any issues.
The presence of stepparents can not only be the happiness for the child but, sometimes a source of inner stress. If the presence of a new person in a child's life can have a bad psychological impact on the child himself, parents should think twice about bringing a new person into their child's life. Before presenting a new life for the child, someone who has experienced previous marriage failures, it is very important to build communication and make agreements with potential new partners for the growth and development of the child.
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